Domestic Violence we are sorry this happened to you; we’re here to help If you are a victim of domestic violence, you are not alone. Every day, men and women, young and old, are abused by someone that is or was once close to them. Domestic violence comes in all shapes and forms; physical abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse and sexual abuse. You may want to leave the relationship but you keep finding reasons to stay or reasons to return and this is normal. We can help. Staying informed is the first step toward a safe future. normal reactions to domestic violence If someone is controling you, it is normal for you to experience a wide range of emotions. It may be hard to come to terms that someone you love or have cared about, is causing you pain. Many victims find it harder to overcome the emotional pain than the broken bones and bruises. You may cycle through various emotions which corespond to the rollercoaster of your relationship. This rollercoaster - honeymoon phase, tension building phase and explosive phase - is known as the cycle of domestic violence. This is NOT your fault. The confusion, hope, uncertainaty, fear, helplessness, low self esteems, stress, denial and anger are all normal and common reactions individuals endure who are abused. Victim Assistance Program advocates are specially trained to help you navigate through these emotions. we would like to stand by your side Victim Assistance Program may be able to provide you with information and resources to help break through these barriers with the hopes of providing you with strength and empowerment to navigate to achiece a safe, stabel and peaceful life. Our advocates can be with you in the hospital, help you coordinate with the police, accompany you to court, help you apply for a protection order, discuss financial compensation, assist in applying for the VINE offender notification system, connect you with community resources, coordinate safe emergency shelter, provide you with an emergency cell phone, help you create a safety plan, and provide crisis intervention and trauma therapy. Victim Assistance Program helps all individuals regardless of their age, sex, religion, nationality, sexual orientation, disability, or ability to speak English. Please know you don’t have to go through this alone, we are here to help. All you need to do is call, we never charge a fee for services. something to think about; protection orders Victims of domestic violence have the right to petition (apply) the court for a civil order of protection against an individual who has or is threatening to cause harm to you or your children. Between the hours of 8a-4p, M-F, you may appear before a magistrate to request an emergency protection order. If granted, the respondent will be ordered not to contact or communicate with you in any way until a full hearing. During the full hearing, both you and the respondent must appear to discuss why the order should remain in place for up to five years. As this can be an intimidating process, our advocates can walk you through every step of the way.